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Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - bazookaman - 08-25-2019
Not piling on. Just think it’s super strange.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - GeneL - 08-25-2019
I had thought that I clarified the situation previously.
When I met Mavis she was living "separately" in a house that she and her husband owned together. Each had their own lives and Mavis told me that they were legally separated.
They didn't divorce due to the financial loss that would occur to their shared assets.
Neither of them felt a need to divorce.
When I met Mavis 33 years ago she seemed unencumbered by her marital state, so we dated for a short time and she ended up moving in with me in the beautiful apartment that I had in an historical villa on the ocean in Laguna Beach. We have been together ever since.
As far as her daughter, it seems that her agenda is to isolate her mom so she can have her declared Incompetent and then to take over the family trust that Mavis and her husband have set up. That's why Mavis is frightened. The daughter has already lied about her mental health and somehow gotten Mavis' doctors to perform a CT scan of her brain. Fortunately, there were no negative indications, but the fact that it happened showed Mavis that her daughter would lie to accomplish her agenda. That's the reason why she is afraid to confront her daughter about me. She is terrified about what the daughter might do.
I have suggested that we find a really good attorney that could advise her and perhaps get a restraining order against the daughter. Mavis is just too fragile to consider that solution at this point.
And so...
... here I am having to find a place to live for now.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Janit - 08-25-2019
GeneL wrote:
I had thought that I clarified the situation previously.
When I met Mavis she was living "separately" in a house that she and her husband owned together. Each had their own lives and Mavis told me that they were legally separated.
They didn't divorce due to the financial loss that would occur to their shared assets.
Neither of them felt a need to divorce.
When I met Mavis 33 years ago she seemed unencumbered by her marital state, so we dated for a short time and she ended up moving in with me in the beautiful apartment that I had in an historical villa on the ocean in Laguna Beach. We have been together ever since.
As far as her daughter, it seems that her agenda is to isolate her mom so she can have her declared Incompetent and then to take over the family trust that Mavis and her husband have set up. That's why Mavis is frightened. The daughter has already lied about her mental health and somehow gotten Mavis' doctors to perform a CT scan of her brain. Fortunately, there were no negative indications, but the fact that it happened showed Mavis that her daughter would lie to accomplish her agenda. That's the reason why she is afraid to confront her daughter about me. She is terrified about what the daughter might do.
I have suggested that we find a really good attorney that could advise her and perhaps get a restraining order against the daughter. Mavis is just too fragile to consider that solution at this point.
And so...
... here I am having to find a place to live for now.
Gene -- you might say to Mavis that it is worth consulting a lawyer without telling the daughter that you are doing so. It is perfectly possible to do this for the purpose of gathering information. A decision to act on the information or not to act would come later. Maybe the lawyer will have suggestions for other solutions that would not be so scary to Mavis.
What kind of trust is it? Who controls the trust? Where is the husband now? Is there already a lawyer involved with this trust? Are the financial consequences of divorce still problematic?
The structure of the trust will indicate whether there is anything to fear regarding the daughter.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - bazookaman - 08-25-2019
Clarified yes.
Clarification doesn't make it any less strange. If you two were married, ALL of this would be a non-issue.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Buzz - 08-25-2019
bazookaman wrote:
Clarified yes.
Clarification doesn't make it any less strange. If you two were married, ALL of this would be a non-issue.
Except that the "non=issue" would be bigamy....
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Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - bazookaman - 08-25-2019
Buzz wrote:
[quote=bazookaman]
Clarified yes.
Clarification doesn't make it any less strange. If you two were married, ALL of this would be a non-issue.
Except that the "non=issue" would be bigamy....
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Well I meant that if she were divorced first. THEN they were married.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Janit - 08-25-2019
Is the husband still alive?
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - GeneL - 08-25-2019
Thanks folks, but divorce at this point isn't really an option.
I strongly feel that the only sensible option would be to find a knowledgeable attorney who could advise Mavis on her best options and take her through whatever she has to do.
The issue with that is she fears that any move like this will precipitate something horrible on the part of her daughter.
Her capacity to deal with all this is diminished, not by her brain, but by her emotional state which at 88 years old is somewhat frail.
So you can see what I'm up against, can't you?
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Blankity Blank - 08-25-2019
Edit: Comment reconsidered. Perhaps unwarranted.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - deckeda - 08-26-2019
space-time wrote:
[quote=deckeda]
[quote=GeneL]
Actually I'm not allowed to come back to live....
Actually it's s-t's misunderstanding that "she is not allowed" I responded to.
What misunderstanding???
He is not allowed into the house.
She is not allowed to let him live there.
Those two sentences are pretty much equivalent.
Please clarify what was Wholly incorrect.
Thanks
Mavis owns the place/pays the rent/whatever. It's HER decision (although likely coerced) not to allow Gene to live there. That's what started this thread.