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Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - DP - 09-01-2019
I haven't responded yet for a variety of reasons, especially the reason that we can't get the point of view from Mavis. But we probably won't. So based on that, I would advise you, Gene, that it's time to bail out.
I'm sorry to be so blunt. Having read of this whole disaster going on for you, I see a recurring theme here and that it appears you've been suffering quite a bit of mental abuse from Mavis for years. She seems to want to protect herself from becoming obligated to you for any reason whatsoever, but you still need to be there at her beck and call.
I know you are one of our "seasoned citizens" and as we all age, we tend to rely on the situations we've lived in as an anchor against the uncertainties of the future. To lose that is devastating, and I surely am not minimizing your loss.
That said, and in my opinion, and mine alone, I would tell Mavis that if she won't deal with the situation one way or the other, then you have to end the relationship.
It seems that she does all she can to avoid dealing with her daughter's heavy-handedness, your attempts to do what you can to help, even being sharp and, well, mean to you when you try to discuss solutions. It seems to have been a very one-sided relationship.
If she isn't going to have your six, you need to recognize that. And if you do as I have suggested, It can't be a bluff. You also need to steel yourself to be able to follow through with this option. You are not young, you have myriad medical issues, and you need to think of yourself first.
BB and others have loaded you up with excellent information to help you to move on and you have taken some steps, showing that you can do it. It will be incredibly difficult for you, no doubt, but I see no good outcome from this unless you take this step. Again, it is my opinion alone.
But if leaving Mavis would help you to get over a very long term relationship that you have cherished; seeing that the relationship, without changing to reflect your needs, is destructive as time moves on, then I believe it's the right thing to do.
God bless, Gene...
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - deckeda - 09-01-2019
Well said, DP
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - mikebw - 09-03-2019
Is it just me, or has Gene posted the same update two days in a row?
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - DP - 09-03-2019
I don't see a duplicate message-the last one I see is from Saturday at 11:02PM Forum Time and no dupe of that.
I'd like to see a new update from Gene...
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - mikebw - 09-03-2019
GeneL wrote:
Posted by: GeneL [PM] [Ignore this user]
Date: August 30, 2019 12:07PM
Yesterday two things happened.
Mavis called me all upset. When she went to get the WSJ which is delivered to our front door each morning, she found an envelope that contained a letter from her daughter.
The daughter apologized for her verbal attack and suggested that they work to have a better relationship.
Mavis expressed her feelings, saying that she didn't feel that she could trust her daughter.
I had, initially, taken the letter as a sign that Mavis could let me come home. Unfortunately, she felt that she couldn't trust the letter.
When I heard about the letter I had taken it as a sign that I wouldn't have to rent the room that very afternoon, but Mavis burst that bubble with ongoing distrust of her daughter.
That afternoon I took a Lyft over to see the room and it wasn't bad. I had been apprehensive about the size (10x10) thinking "prison cell" but it turned out to be quite pleasant. I will have to make the most of it.
My biggest concern right now is that I am not feeling very well. I just am keeping my fingers crossed that my health and my strength will improve over time.
On my way to dialysis right now, so consider this my update.
Thanks,
GeneL
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GeneL wrote:
Posted by: GeneL [PM] [Ignore this user]
Date: September 01, 2019 12:02AM
Yesterday two things happened.
Mavis called me all upset. When she went to get the WSJ which is delivered to our front door each morning, she found an envelope that contained a letter from her daughter.
The daughter apologized for her verbal attack and suggested that they work to have a better relationship.
Mavis expressed her feelings, saying that she didn't feel that she could trust her daughter.
I had, initially, taken the letter as a sign that Mavis could let me come home. Unfortunately, she felt that she couldn't trust the letter.
When I heard about the letter I had taken it as a sign that I wouldn't have to rent the room that very afternoon, but Mavis burst that bubble with ongoing distrust of her daughter.
That afternoon I took a Lyft over to see the room and it wasn't bad. I had been apprehensive about the size (10x10) thinking "prison cell" but it turned out to be quite pleasant. I will have to make the most of it.
My biggest concern right now is that I am not feeling very well. I just am keeping my fingers crossed that my health and my strength will improve over time.
On my way to dialysis right now, so consider this my update.
Thanks,
GeneL
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - N-OS X-tasy! - 09-03-2019
mikebw wrote:
[quote=GeneL]
Posted by: GeneL [PM] [Ignore this user]
Date: August 30, 2019 12:07PM
Yesterday two things happened.
Mavis called me all upset. When she went to get the WSJ which is delivered to our front door each morning, she found an envelope that contained a letter from her daughter.
The daughter apologized for her verbal attack and suggested that they work to have a better relationship.
Mavis expressed her feelings, saying that she didn't feel that she could trust her daughter.
I had, initially, taken the letter as a sign that Mavis could let me come home. Unfortunately, she felt that she couldn't trust the letter.
When I heard about the letter I had taken it as a sign that I wouldn't have to rent the room that very afternoon, but Mavis burst that bubble with ongoing distrust of her daughter.
That afternoon I took a Lyft over to see the room and it wasn't bad. I had been apprehensive about the size (10x10) thinking "prison cell" but it turned out to be quite pleasant. I will have to make the most of it.
My biggest concern right now is that I am not feeling very well. I just am keeping my fingers crossed that my health and my strength will improve over time.
On my way to dialysis right now, so consider this my update.
Thanks,
GeneL
and
GeneL wrote:
Posted by: GeneL [PM] [Ignore this user]
Date: September 01, 2019 12:02AM
Yesterday two things happened.
Mavis called me all upset. When she went to get the WSJ which is delivered to our front door each morning, she found an envelope that contained a letter from her daughter.
The daughter apologized for her verbal attack and suggested that they work to have a better relationship.
Mavis expressed her feelings, saying that she didn't feel that she could trust her daughter.
I had, initially, taken the letter as a sign that Mavis could let me come home. Unfortunately, she felt that she couldn't trust the letter.
When I heard about the letter I had taken it as a sign that I wouldn't have to rent the room that very afternoon, but Mavis burst that bubble with ongoing distrust of her daughter.
That afternoon I took a Lyft over to see the room and it wasn't bad. I had been apprehensive about the size (10x10) thinking "prison cell" but it turned out to be quite pleasant. I will have to make the most of it.
My biggest concern right now is that I am not feeling very well. I just am keeping my fingers crossed that my health and my strength will improve over time.
On my way to dialysis right now, so consider this my update.
Thanks,
GeneL
The Sept 1 post above does not appear in my thread view.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - mikebw - 09-03-2019
Well that's super strange then.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Z - 09-03-2019
You're not alone, mikebw - I see both of them.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Buzz - 09-03-2019
Obviously Mavis's daughter's goons got to Gene before Gene's entourage could get to her, and wisen her up a bit. Gene is being held captive in a Ugandan prison, without indoor plumbing or running water. Dreadful conditions, for sure. Some of Mavis's daughter's other goons are posting, and re-posting as though they are Gene, in the hopes that we won't find out his true whereabouts, and be able to pin these dastardly deeds on Mavis's evil daughter. Mavis's daughter needs to be found and brought to justice ASAP, or Gene will be transported to another galaxy far, far away. Gene must be found and rescued, so that he and Mavis, and Precious can live out their years peacefully, while Mavis's evil daughter is punished to the fullest extent of the law for her crimes against humanity.
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Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - GeneL - 09-03-2019
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