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Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - rgG - 08-07-2019
If Mavis’s granddaughters have children of their own, meaning they are adults, how is it that the daughter can prevent them from seeing Mavis?
There are no doubt a lot of things going on here, and some great advice being given. An impartial third party definitely needs to be brought in to sort this out.
I hope Gene is able to get in contact with some of the resources mentioned here and that a resolution is able to be reached.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Blankity Blank - 08-07-2019
One step at a time. One conversation at a time. You don’t have to be Superman, doing everything at once.
Dana Point, California Legal Aid & Pro Bono Services
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - bfd - 08-07-2019
Blankity Blank wrote:
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https://www.211oc.org
They can help you immediately. It's what they do. They can also help you with your other questions. You can dial 2-1-1 if you don't have access to a computer. 211 is the first place to go.
Looks great. Just to be clear, they can direct Gene to a source/sources even if he’s not in Orange County, correct?
Uncertain. Thought he was still in/around Dana Point. That's OC. Where is he right now? If he's in California, 211 is pretty much the hotline for help regardless of where one is living in CA. Each county has a lead entity. https://www.cpuc.ca.gov/General.aspx?id=7846
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - ArtP - 08-07-2019
Good advice above....
I'm not in great financial shape myself at the moment but willing to throw a few $ at the gofundme page if someone sets one up.
A $10 here or a $20 there can go a long way to bringing back some normalcy to your day to day survival.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Blankity Blank - 08-07-2019
bfd wrote:
[quote=Blankity Blank]
[quote=bfd]
https://www.211oc.org
They can help you immediately. It's what they do. They can also help you with your other questions. You can dial 2-1-1 if you don't have access to a computer. 211 is the first place to go.
Looks great. Just to be clear, they can direct Gene to a source/sources even if he’s not in Orange County, correct?
Uncertain. Thought he was still in/around Dana Point. That's OC. Where is he right now? If he's in California, 211 is pretty much the hotline for help regardless of where one is living in CA. Each county has a lead entity. https://www.cpuc.ca.gov/General.aspx?id=7846
I missed his Dana Point location. That looks like it cloud be a great source to tap into.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - Drew - 08-07-2019
Following along. Will also be willing to donate to a gofundme kind of setup.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - wave rider - 08-07-2019
Wishing I had some ideas to help, GeneL; lots of good advice being proffered.
Taking notes for myself too…
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - MrNoBody - 08-08-2019
ArtP wrote:
Good advice above....
I'm not in great financial shape myself at the moment but willing to throw a few $ at the gofundme page if someone sets one up.
A $10 here or a $20 there can go a long way to bringing back some normalcy to your day to day survival.
Same here! Being on the EC, there's not much I could do other than donate.
There's enough of us here that $20 each would add up!
Hang in there Gene.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - mspace - 08-08-2019
Is there ANY way to point out to Mavis that this threat will NEVER go away, no matter how much she complies? The daughter can keep doing this again and again.
I do understand the fear and terror that she (and you) is under right now. Please try to use the great suggestions already made.
Re: GeneL Needs Our Help! - rjmacs - 08-08-2019
Primum non nocere.
Are we helping?
GeneL identified two needs: financial resources to cover a gap in his income vs. expenses, as he faces a transition out of nursing facility, and help organizing and liquidating collectibles. I'm not saying that everyone's comments aren't well-meaning and caring, but we haven't done a great job addressing the needs directly.
The first (gap between income and expenses) is very difficult to manage with crowdfunding/charity, because the gap recurs cyclically. I know we would like to be able to fix this, but crowdfunding won't sustain GeneL over time.
The second is somewhere the forum might have more expertise. I don't personally know much about collectibles, but we have several vendors on the forum. I don't know if assistance with this task can be outsourced, but if so a crowdfunding campaign might help cover some costs.
There's clearly a lot of personal relationship complexity and pain in this situation, and possibly some abuse of influence. I hope we can all remember that family matters are never clear to outsiders (and often not clear to insiders), and not jump to too many conclusions. I'm concerned for Gene and Mavis, but for now they seem to be safe.
Gene - I wonder if the nursing facility where you are has any kind of patient advocate, or a social worker? That's not usually a "fix," but in my time in healthcare these folks were some of the best, patient-focused folks I met. Having an ally/partner nearby who doesn't have to deal with all the health- and emotion-related stress bugging you can be invaluable!