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"He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - dmann - 03-24-2006
Sooooo, in my effort to make some changes in my life I broke down and went to a speed dating thing with some friends last week. All in all it was better than I thought it would be. Of course, several Tanqueray and tonics helped me reach that conclusion but that is another story.
Of the 20+ guys that I talked to, there were 2 that I found interesting enough (and over the age of 30) to mark as a "yes". (For those who don't know how these things work, PM me if you are interested. I won't bore everyone here.) Of those 2, one of them apparently found me interesting enough to mark "yes."
The event was Wed. and we got the results via email on Friday. One of my bosses was in town with me this week and as I was running around like a maniac all week I didn't really give it any thought until today. I just realized I haven't heard from the guy. I was all set to email him, but then had 2nd thoughts.
Should I let it go or should I go ahead and make the 1st move? Of course, he could have been wasted and has absolutely no recollection of me or the event...
Thoughts?
DM
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - Ken Sp. - 03-24-2006
You have nothing to lose--I am a guy--and I wouldn't consider it in appropriate at all for you to follow up. His week could have been as hectic as yours.
I am a naturally gregariuos person-and comfortable in all situations--but I am so shy when it comes to dating. I think it has to do with humility, and it is hard to "make the first move".
Hey it is worth the try--you have nothing to lose.
Good luck!!!
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - mattkime - 03-24-2006
Only a hussy would be so brazen!
For shame!
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - SteveJobs - 03-24-2006
I would forget about him.
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - incognegro - 03-24-2006
throw all "rules" you've heard from your lady friends out the window.
well, except the bit about the cow and the milk for free; that's a good one.
if you're interested, contact him.
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - OWC Jamie - 03-24-2006
I'm tempted to say fuhgetabout him, but I'm an old fart.
Call or e-mail, never know, might have this nasty flu/cold that's going around. Really knocks ya out.
I should be out doing the meet and greet again, I don't have time.
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - Refurbvirgin - 03-24-2006
When you're fishing sometimes the best bait is wasted if you don't set the hook. He'll probably be flattered you were interested to contact him. Go for it. You've got nothing to lose but loneliness. If this one doesn't work out, try, try again. You've got a lot to offer, and there are billions more guys out there that might fit better with you. Don't give up.
Quitters never win!
Or is it knitters never sin?
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - 3d - 03-24-2006
I'm a guy.
Let him eMail you first. If you eMail him first you'll be seen as "easy". If you don't hear from him, move on.
How were the other guys there? If the pickings were slim, every woman there probably saw the same things you saw and thought he was one of only two good looking and charming guys there.
Wait a few more days for him to contact you. If not, then move on. No point in waiting. If a guy is interested in you he'll have contacted you by now. I don't care HOW BUSY it is at work. For us guys, there is ALWAYS TIME to meet chicks.
If he says something like, "Sorry it took so long for me to contact you. I've been so busy at work." **Translation** Sorry it took so long for me to contact you. I've been so busy eMailing these other women. My mailbox is swamped.
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - incognegro - 03-24-2006
this is one of those "rules" i was talking about:
Let him eMail you first. If you eMail him first you'll be seen as "easy". If you don't hear from him, move on.
Re: "He's just not that into you" and other dating woes - davester - 03-24-2006
3d Wrote:
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> Let him eMail you first. If you eMail him first
> you'll be seen as "easy".
Wow. What decade do you guys live in? I'd say that playing games or making up rules like this is no way to start out a relationship. If you're interested, make the call. One of my best long-term romances started out with a girl I met at a party calling me for a date.