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... is one knows a lot of people who die. I just found out a really cool guy I met a little over a month ago is not expected to live. He has some sort of infection and apparently the worst case scenario is playing out.
I have video of the guy I need to edit and it's going to be really odd doing that if he's dead. He seemed like a really smart, successful, passionate guy who's making a difference in the world and is making changes to be even more of a positive impact.
It's not the first time this has happened. I meet about 50 people each month. Lately I've been keeping in closer contact with most of them.
This week has felt like it's a month long. It started out being presented with some opportunities to help people through the holidays... I'm cash poor at the moment (been putting profits into another business) but I worked my butt off to try and generate an extra few thousand dollars to make it happen. I basically started on three new projects this week and lined up a fourth for January.
*cries*
I don't deal well with people dying. I'm sure no one does, but especially not me. So when there's people I can help, I try that much harder. Sorry... just a bit overwhelmed at the moment.
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"It's not the first time this has happened. I meet about 50 people each month. Lately I've been keeping in closer contact with most of them. "
either you slow down, or you have to re-define the term "closer contact"
If closer contact is bulk email, then yes, I agree. if closer contact is knowing their names, their hobbies, their needs, problems, (i.e. more than an entry in your address book), then I doubt it can be done with 50 NEW people a month. I assume by "meet" you mean someone new, right?
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I knew there had to be a good reason for disliking most people I meet ;-)
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[quote space-time]"It's not the first time this has happened. I meet about 50 people each month. Lately I've been keeping in closer contact with most of them. "
either you slow down, or you have to re-define the term "closer contact"
If closer contact is bulk email, then yes, I agree. if closer contact is knowing their names, their hobbies, their needs, problems, (i.e. more than an entry in your address book), then I doubt it can be done with 50 NEW people a month. I assume by "meet" you mean someone new, right?
I've probably averaged 50 new people per month over the past few years. But over the last year or two, I probably get to know (likes, needs, problems...) ~25/mo.
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MAVIC, sorry to hear about your friend being sick. Your right that losing friends is terrible. Just last night I was thinking about a friend of mine who passed away in 1998 and how much me meant to me. At the same time I know that his memory continues to inspire and lead me. In time you may feel the same way about your friend even if he isn't a super close friend.
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I am sorry for your distress, and your acquaintance's misfortune.
When I teach I spend 10-16 weeks with 30-60 students, with whom I meet for several hours each week. Often one-on-one or in small groups, where informal conversation prevail. These are people for whom I have direct professional responsibilities. I cannot always remember all of their names, let alone "likes, needs, problems..." (except, you know, the academic stuff).
The idea that you can form something like friendships with 25 people every month is pretty astonishing to me.
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Seeing your friends/loved ones being destroyed by something like what your friend is suffering is distressing. It's like watching them being murdered and it makes you feel helpless because it's nothing you can do to save them other than giving him your good vibes and praying hard. Sorry about your friend.
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Sorry to hear about your friend MAVIC. It's very hard to deal with.
Sometimes we wonder if the pain of loss is worth it. Still I would rather get to meet as many people as I could. You learn so much from talking to people. Everyone is different and I feel I learn something from each person. I also love the feeling when I feel like I am sharing my experience with others.
It's the human experience. Good, bad, happy and painful. If you started removing unpleasant experiences; we wouldn't be the same people we are today.
Not meeting a lot of people is what I am missing working out of the house. I tend to work on fewer, larger projects and all of the communication is via email. I work on computers on the side and enjoy going on house calls. For some customers; it's as much as catching up on what's going on in their lives as much as fixing their computers.
