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[GeneL]

Thanks David!
I am sad to hear that your daughter is having health issues.
My fingers are crossed that her health improves.

[space-time]

maybe this was mentioned earlier but I missed it and I don't feel like re-reading the entire thread.

Is Mavis able to drive? does she have a car? can she take you around from hospital to the new place you rent or to a flea market to sell some of your collectibles? I understand she is not allowed to let you into the house, but is she allowed to help you otherwise? or is she simply forbidden from seeing you at all?

[GeneL]

I started this response earlier, but got side tracked.
s-t, Mavis does drive, but she has difficulty backing out of a parking space. Because she's short she has trouble judging what's behind her and it's hard for her to see how far she is from the big SUV's that invariably park next to her.
There's no way that she would be up to taking me to a flea market. She never wanted to participate when I had my swap meet business.
As far as her daughter, we stay off her radar so it hasn't been a problem, so far.

[deckeda]

space-time wrote:
... I understand she is not allowed to let you into the house...

Wholly incorrect.

[GeneL]

Actually I'm not allowed to come back to live.
I have been home a number of times to pick up things and to fix odds and ends for Mavis.
We are both suffering so much, not being together. The other day, when Mavis picked me up from dialysis so we could have a bite to eat together, I shared with her how I was feeling.
I said that it felt like a piece of me was missing. She said that she felt the same way.
This situation really sucks and I don't know how to fix it.

[D-Rod]

Marry her.

[timg]

Dennis R wrote:
Marry her.

She's not divorced.

[deckeda]

GeneL wrote:
Actually I'm not allowed to come back to live....

Actually it's s-t's misunderstanding that "she is not allowed" I responded to.

[Blankity Blank]

You’ve been with Mavis for over two decades; since you and Mavis were in your fifties or early sixties. Is it correct that you have no allies in Mavis’ family to advocate for the two of you? That can perhaps arrange a family meeting to let Mavis make her feelings clear to all members of the family, in her words, not filtered through the daughter?

If the entire family truly objects to your and Mavis’ relationship, is there anything the family believes, rightly or wrongly, for you to ‘atone’ for?

[space-time]

deckeda wrote:
[quote=GeneL]
Actually I'm not allowed to come back to live....

Actually it's s-t's misunderstanding that "she is not allowed" I responded to.
What misunderstanding???

He is not allowed into the house.

She is not allowed to let him live there.

Those two sentences are pretty much equivalent.

Please clarify what was Wholly incorrect.

Thanks