GeneL Needs Our Help!

[GeneL]

I can go there during the day when Mavis picks me up from dialysis, but I cannot go back to live.
It's not as if her daughter can monitor 24/7!

[rgG]

GeneL wrote:
I can go there during the day when Mavis picks me up from dialysis, but I cannot go back to live.
It's not as if her daughter can monitor 24/7!

Crux question, has the daughter said why exactly she objects to you living with Mavis, after all this time?
What caused this to come to a head after nearly 30 years?

[Rick-o]

I vote we end this sticky. Nothing seems to be moving forward, and it doesn't appear if it ever will.

No hard feelings, GeneL! I hope your situation improves soon.

Maybe you could rob a bank. At least you'll have three squares a day, medical care, and a place to sleep! (I keed, I keed!)

[Janit]

Rick-o wrote:
I vote we end this sticky. Nothing seems to be moving forward, and it doesn't appear if it ever will.

No hard feelings, GeneL! I hope your situation improves soon.

Maybe you could rob a bank. At least you'll have three squares a day, medical care, and a place to sleep! (I keed, I keed!)

So your solution is to give up on the situation? To make SURE nothing will move forward? What you don't seem to realize is that the simple act of having this as a sticky reinforces the idea for GeneL that we support him, that we encourage him to move forward. The continuing conversation itself is very important for encouraging him to find focus and to act, however slowly that may be.

Rick-o -- if reading this sticky makes you uncomfortable or impatient, then just stop reading it. Please don't tell the rest of us that we should stop encouraging GeneL however we can, even if it is just by being present. Presence itself is very important. If GeneL is feeling abandoned and immobile now, just consider how much worse he will feel if we collectively say we don't want to pay attention to him anymore?

GeneL -- we are here!

[bazookaman]

I have a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that you've been living in an adulterous relationship for 33 years!?! And no one else comments on it so maybe that's normal? Isn't the easy solution just to get married?

[Filliam H. Muffman]

Again, Mavis never got divorced from the daughter's father.

[space-time]

Why Mavis didn’t get a divorce???

[bazookaman]

Filliam H. Muffman wrote:
Again, Mavis never got divorced from the daughter's father.

Yes. I get that. And that doesn’t strike you as odd? Involved with a man for 33 years while married to another? Get a divorce. Get married. Problem solved.

[Filliam H. Muffman]

I know at least two very religious women that got married, realized that they had irreconcilable differences with their husbands and separated. They seem to have never considered divorce but eventually lived 'in sin' with other men. I don't think I have seen this happen with people that got married after 1970.

[Janit]

bazookaman wrote:
I have a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that you've been living in an adulterous relationship for 33 years!?! And no one else comments on it so maybe that's normal? Isn't the easy solution just to get married?

If Mavis was formally separated, that would obviate the issue of "adultery."

There are all sorts of reasons why people don't get divorced. It is curious, and might serve to illuminate the reasons for the current difficulties, but piling on about the issue does not really help.