02-19-2018, 03:23 AM
Good advice here. I would have given the riding lessons for good grades/ behavior/ respect. My freshman son asked to do scuba lessons and an overnight scuba trip off Catalina offered through school. He is very respectful and does well in school. He doesn’t pester for anything. We don’t put up with that. That’s just not how we raised him. He was disrespectful a few times a couple of years ago and we talked to him about that not being acceptable behavior. He had issues with it but we worked through it. One thing I have learned is that you have to be firm but fair. Say what you mean and follow through. If they can’t follow your rules there is a problem and you have to figure out how to solve it. My older son had similar issues of disrespect and “homework problems” and he lost his door to his room and his computer. He almost had me go to his classes with him because he was not doing his work in class. ALMOST. I told him I will take the day off to go to class with him to find out what the problem is. He is currently in his second year in college. Doing very well. His younger brother the Freshman learned from his brothers mistakes. I know not all children are the same, but they all need guidance. EDIT: and tough love.