09-01-2019, 04:00 AM
Janit, you have a clear sense of the situation. It is so frustrating for me, not to be able to encourage Mavis to get herself a knowledgeable lawyer to set up something that would provide solid protection against anything that her daughter might do.
Instead she builds a case in her mind that she loses her grandchildren and her great grandchildren if she involves a lawyer. She sees that the daughter who has been attacking her has involved her daughters and their husbands in businesses that in some way depend on her and her businessman husband.
She feels that there is nothing she can do that won't backfire on her.
Then, as far as our relationship, she feels that because she bought the condo and pays the various utilities she has contributed much more to the relationship than I have and she has expressed that viewpoint many times in the past. It has always been hurtful when she has done that.
The truth is that I have many times wanted to chip in with the money that I have coming in, but she has always rejected my offer. It has always seemed to be her way to prevent me from establishing a claim against her.
I have shrugged this off, not knowing anyway to change her.
People talk about "sweat equity" and between that and the money that I have spent on food, entertainment, various additions to the condo and all the "honey do" things that I have done to keep things running, I feel that I have kept up my end of things but Mavis discounts all of that!
I just don't know how I can move on? I have no picture of recovering a life from this horrific situation and being able to find "someone new."
Pretty sad, huh?
Instead she builds a case in her mind that she loses her grandchildren and her great grandchildren if she involves a lawyer. She sees that the daughter who has been attacking her has involved her daughters and their husbands in businesses that in some way depend on her and her businessman husband.
She feels that there is nothing she can do that won't backfire on her.
Then, as far as our relationship, she feels that because she bought the condo and pays the various utilities she has contributed much more to the relationship than I have and she has expressed that viewpoint many times in the past. It has always been hurtful when she has done that.
The truth is that I have many times wanted to chip in with the money that I have coming in, but she has always rejected my offer. It has always seemed to be her way to prevent me from establishing a claim against her.
I have shrugged this off, not knowing anyway to change her.
People talk about "sweat equity" and between that and the money that I have spent on food, entertainment, various additions to the condo and all the "honey do" things that I have done to keep things running, I feel that I have kept up my end of things but Mavis discounts all of that!
I just don't know how I can move on? I have no picture of recovering a life from this horrific situation and being able to find "someone new."
Pretty sad, huh?