04-05-2007, 10:43 PM
I would not listen to Mac-A-Matic 
Anyone putting on airs, or using "power" to get attention doesn't get paid attention to by women of substance. Now if you are looking for a gold digger or a fling ...
Depending on what you have learned up until that point, it could be about a vacation she took, more about her job, where she went to college, hobbies, where she grew up, etc. The hard part about first dates is not feeling uncomfortable if there are silences (that happens with good friends too) and not blanking out on what to say if you just can't stand the silence. Storing away a few questions ahead of time helps. Plus it is an excellent way to get to know her better.
And being a friend does work. That takes the pressure off of both of you. It's always appreciated to feel like the person is interested in you, and not what they hope to get from you that night.
Anyone putting on airs, or using "power" to get attention doesn't get paid attention to by women of substance. Now if you are looking for a gold digger or a fling ...Depending on what you have learned up until that point, it could be about a vacation she took, more about her job, where she went to college, hobbies, where she grew up, etc. The hard part about first dates is not feeling uncomfortable if there are silences (that happens with good friends too) and not blanking out on what to say if you just can't stand the silence. Storing away a few questions ahead of time helps. Plus it is an excellent way to get to know her better.
And being a friend does work. That takes the pressure off of both of you. It's always appreciated to feel like the person is interested in you, and not what they hope to get from you that night.