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I like Blankity Blank's suggestions.
I can't make any sense of why Mavis can't bear to be kept from her grandkids instead of her companion, but that does seem to be the case. You must keep talking to her Gene. Discover her fear, don't assume what it is. It must be stated.
The daughter clearly wants something Mavis owns. Cash, property, affection, something that the daughter is willing to withhold her kids in order to secure it.
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I am not a lawyer, but... if you are married, you are entitled to be with your wife. Even if you are not married, I bet that CA has some sort of common law marriage rule, that is definitely more fuzzy than the official route.
If you are not on the deed of the condo/place, and not married, I guess that would mean she is within her rights to keep you out, but I would still wonder about the common law marriage "regulations."
There is free legal help through the probate courts, usually a legal aid society or for those with limited incomes. I would just about guarantee that this is the case in any bigger areas in CA.
edit: blankity is already on it!!!
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The problem with "lawyering up", is that it's an escalation, which might make matters worse.
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And considering GeneL’s health, I don’t know how much strength he has to go through all this. But whatever course, I’ll support it.
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"Might help to have an explanation of why the daughter would do this."
Follow the money. Mavis has it and the daughter wants it. GeneL is an obstacle to the daughter gaining control of momma's cash. Mavis NEEDS legal advice and she should have an iron clad will PROPERLY drawn up, executed and filed. If Mavis can do that, I expect that would take much of the wind out of daughter's sail.
GeneL, I expect that where you are, there is an "Office of Aging" or "Elder Care" (possibly called something else). If you HAVEN'T been in contact with them, you need to do so ASAP! Staff there will have an understanding of what help is available and, to to apply for it. They will also be versed in emergency situations (like yours). Have you contacted your local Legislator's office? If not DO SO! Is there a local "Poverty Law Center"? If so, law students may be able champion your case. The staff where you currently are SHOULD be aware of this resource and, by now, have put you in touch with them. Feces occurs and, said staff might think that you or someone else has already taken care of it. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. START SQUEAKING!
Good luck, do advise us if / when a GoFundMe account is up and running.
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California Aging Agency - we have a local chapter here in our small WA town and they do great work - I had dealings with them on behalf of clients when I worked for the Red Cross.
