Baby Shower Etiquette

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AlphaDog wrote:
I guess things have changed a lot. Back in the olden days, the shower for the first baby was an exciting affair. When the second child was on the way, you were on your own, with the assumption being there were "leftovers" from the first child. Of course that was normally true. After the birth of the second (or third or fourth), people would bring gifts for the baby at the time they came to see it, but there was no big hoopla of a baby shower.

we heard the same from various source, and unless the new baby is supposed to be of opposite gender than the first baby, some people would consider a second baby shower (for a baby of the same gender as the first child) a little impolite.

We had one for our first pregnancy. When we expected the second time around (also boy), no baby shower.

However, I have seen the opposite, where a mother of 2 boys was expecting her 3rd boy and she had TWO baby showers. that was kind of strange.

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Make it an online baby shower:

http://www.webbabyshower.com/

How nerdy is that...

Jeff

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I don't think you're responsible.

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I also think that after the first child you probably shouldn't have any more, for a couple of reasons. For a first child, buying all that "stuff" in a few short months, is a big burden on a young couple. After the first though, you should have most of the "stuff" you need already. I can see a small exception being made if it's a baby of a different gender, but even still - you should be able to reuse almost all the "stuff" you got the first time. I mean do you really need a gender specific Boppy pillow cover? No. Also, by the second child, you probably realize you didn't really use most of the junk you registered for the first time.

My wife and I were invited to an acquaintance's second child shower. (it was a couples-inclusive shower.) We politely declined and sent a card. Of course it'd be different depending on how close you are with the person, but my (our) guideline is none after one.
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Wailer wrote:
I feel like we should be giving a box of condoms for each subsequent one.

Man, those Duggar folks must drive you nuts.

http://www.duggarfamily.com/

Jeff