So our daughter calls this morning and says she wants to move back home...

[Dennis S]

Bess Trumann's mother never did think Harry was good enough for her daughter - even after he was President.

[datbeme]

I'm pretty sure that I don't know enough about the parties involved to have an opinion. But if she's 23, I assume he's in that general neighborhood as well. I am very sorry about what you are going through, but from what you describe, I find it difficult to convict him just yet. The DUI makes him seem like a bad seed, but cold feet is not in itself grounds for banishing him from you lives forever. Some amount of uncertainty may actually be healthy for their relationship in the long run.

[Speedy]

He probably got the cold shoulder from the gal he was hitting on soy our daughter is back.

[Carnos Jax]

Believe it or not, I was more inclined to call him a loser for first telling your daughter he doesn't love her anymore, then to change his mind. I never considered the 'financial aspects' of his situation. I just didn't like a person leading someone else along when they're not sure. But I just may be naive about relationships.

[davester]

I am amazed that there are so many people here who are able to do a complete workup on the boyfriend and come to well researched conclusions regarding his character based only upon a couple of sentences from the girlfriend's dad. Your powers of analysis are far beyond anything I could ever achieve, and actually far beyond anything I had ever thought possible of human beings.

[rgG]

davester wrote:
I am amazed that there are so many people here who are able to do a complete workup on the boyfriend and come to well researched conclusions regarding his character based only upon a couple of sentences from the girlfriend's dad mom. Your powers of analysis are far beyond anything I could ever achieve, and actually far beyond anything I had ever thought possible of human beings.

Fixed that for you.

[jesse]

He sounds like a loser, and there's nothing you can do but love her and support her until she figures it out for herself. FWIW I think you handled it the only way you could.

[NewtonMP2100]

....he may just be a victim of unfortunate circumstances......???

[Bill in NC]

Sorry, but a DUI conviction is not "just bad luck."

It is an indication of a serious substance abuse problem.

Not someone I'd want to see my kids around on a regular basis.

[Dennis S]

If you wait until she figures it out on her own, she'll already have her life screwed up. Believe me.