03-24-2006, 08:59 PM
I know I'm not the "typical guy", but I say, contact him. I think in general most guys would love for women to take the pressure off them by the woman's making the first move. (At worst, as others have pointed out, he might say "no", and then you haven't lost much... as others have pointed out, plenty of fish in the sea...)
The way I rationalize this is as follows: when a man hits on a woman, he's just being a "guy"-- it's expected of him as a male that he chases after anything with two legs and a pulse (sad, really, when you think about it!). On the other hand, if a woman hits on a man, there's really no question that she likes him. So it takes a lot of the "guesswork" and "games" out of things when the woman is the one to take the first move. But some people (not myself) actually really *like* and *want* the games, and don't at heart want to divest themselves of them... I try to avoid the game-players myself.
The way I rationalize this is as follows: when a man hits on a woman, he's just being a "guy"-- it's expected of him as a male that he chases after anything with two legs and a pulse (sad, really, when you think about it!). On the other hand, if a woman hits on a man, there's really no question that she likes him. So it takes a lot of the "guesswork" and "games" out of things when the woman is the one to take the first move. But some people (not myself) actually really *like* and *want* the games, and don't at heart want to divest themselves of them... I try to avoid the game-players myself.