03-24-2006, 11:54 PM
Tanqueray and Tonic: nice choice.
Some others gave great advice above. Here's mine:
I am single and 36, 6'1, 185, successfully self-employed 13 years, author, been on nat'l TV & media with my book, been told I am good(+) looking, blah blah FWIW. Married VERY happily for nine years 'til 2001 when my wife and soul mate suddenly passed away. Now I have a girlfriend. (Incidentally, she made the first move.) For a long, long time after my wife's death, I "didn't care anymore" to put it bluntly. This woman who is in my life now has helped me see the importance of going on, of trying to make life good.
Hypothetically: If I got a call (edit: or email, but a call would be better) from a girl I met at one of those speed dating things (or any other place), I'd be totally cool with it. And I would respect the girl even more for having the guts to call me.
Non-hypothetically: Don't expect him to make the first move. If you want something in life, anything...you've got to make it happen. Period.
Over the past few years, I've met women at various venues; a few have asked me out on the spot, others have gotten in touch with me via mutual friends (I don't readily give my contact info out unless you're a reporter, ha!). I admire them for this, I DON'T think less of them.
If nothing else, hey, you could meet this guy and be friends (not a bad deal at all, everyone can use a new friend), and hey, who knows, he could lead you to someone else who you really click with. If not, so what...you'll be richer for the experience. Good luck!
Some others gave great advice above. Here's mine:
I am single and 36, 6'1, 185, successfully self-employed 13 years, author, been on nat'l TV & media with my book, been told I am good(+) looking, blah blah FWIW. Married VERY happily for nine years 'til 2001 when my wife and soul mate suddenly passed away. Now I have a girlfriend. (Incidentally, she made the first move.) For a long, long time after my wife's death, I "didn't care anymore" to put it bluntly. This woman who is in my life now has helped me see the importance of going on, of trying to make life good.
Hypothetically: If I got a call (edit: or email, but a call would be better) from a girl I met at one of those speed dating things (or any other place), I'd be totally cool with it. And I would respect the girl even more for having the guts to call me.
Non-hypothetically: Don't expect him to make the first move. If you want something in life, anything...you've got to make it happen. Period.
Over the past few years, I've met women at various venues; a few have asked me out on the spot, others have gotten in touch with me via mutual friends (I don't readily give my contact info out unless you're a reporter, ha!). I admire them for this, I DON'T think less of them.
If nothing else, hey, you could meet this guy and be friends (not a bad deal at all, everyone can use a new friend), and hey, who knows, he could lead you to someone else who you really click with. If not, so what...you'll be richer for the experience. Good luck!