Would you continue to date someone who was not "marriage material" (to you)?

[Chakravartin]

If she's wrong for you, dump her or have that conversation where you establish the firm boundaries of your relationship.

If she's right for you then what matters is that you're together, not that you're married.

[eustacetilley]

As long as it's still OK with her Mom, yes.
(School Nights are still problematical.)

¬Eustace

[RAMd®d]

If you are asking the question, you already know the answer.

Bingo.

With everyone's cards on the table, how you both proceed should be clear, though possibly conflicted.


I want a woman that's going to arouse my intellect as well as my loins!

I LOVED that movie!

[DRR]

It's simple to me. If dating is a means to an end (marriage) then no, I wouldn't waste my time.

However if you see dating as something you do until you get married, and you can enjoy being in the moment and you can enjoy dating, then sure, do that.

I will also say, who's to say you won't change your mind about someone? It's good to have a clear view of what you want, but don't assume that can't/won't change.

[silvarios]

sekker wrote:
I've never been willing to date someone that wasn't bright, so I guess I don't have much to add.

Luckily I'm not very bright, so I don't have any such concerns regarding my partner's intellect.

[Speedy]

john dough wrote: she has, flat out, the sexiest body of any woman I have ever been with). Her mind, on the other hand, leaves me wanting to roll over and go to sleep afterwards.

At my age, this works for me! And silvarios makes a good point that I can relate to. The debt part, though, would definitely be a deal breaker. She has to earn at least twice what I do to attract me.

[vision63]

The biggest requirement I need in any romantic relationship is openness and honesty. I need you to "trust" me. I deserve to be trusted. That means when I make a statement that you may or may not be misinterpreting, you are going to give me THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT.

If I love you, that means that I would NEVER do or say ANYTHING that would be detrimental to who you are, your history, your dignity. But I'm not perfect so that means you going to tell me how what I said makes you feel. That's a platform for resolution. I need my better half to trust that I am 100 percent supportive. Be open, be honest and forthright and don't constrict me, teach me how to love you right because you're my Queen.

I'm the one that you are choosing to "have your back." Your trusted confidante. If you cannot allow yourself to be naked and vulnerable with me and trust that I would never dog you, then it's not going to work.

Now put those jeans on that I like and lets go eat.

[BernDog]

All these posts, and not one of these yet?

:useless:

What's this forum coming to?

[testcase]

Is this hottie deaf, dumb and blind and, her father owns a liquor store? 8-)

[BernDog]

testcase wrote:
Is this hottie deaf, dumb and blind and, her father owns a liquor store? 8-)

AND, does she play a mean pin-ball?