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Sorry if i was politically incorrect. Didn't mean to stir up the hen house.
It seems that i'm the only person here who says do not call this guy who's been ignoring you for a week. Keep in mind, i DO have your best interests in mind when i gave that advice. I did not post it as a joke. It's just one person's (my) opinion.
Just curious. Is there anyone else here besides myself who is: Male, Single, 30's, "normal" and currently active in the "dating scene"?
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I'm a guy (37 last month).
You have a clear story here.
He went to a speed dating event.
He checked you as a "yes".
It's a no-brainer. Contact him.
I can understand defending the position of "let him call you first" if you first met in the checkout line at the grocery store or he's an acquaintance of your brother. I would feel a bit awkward being contacted by a lady first in those dating-ambiguous situations.
But he already made a "first move". Contact him.
Ask him if he wants to meet you for coffee or lunch or catch a movie in the evening or whatever. I'll admit I haven't dated very much, but I am in a relationship now (almost 3 years) so my advice isn't totally worthless.
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My only response is that I thought dmann was "the man"!
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Some fellows, they wouldn't like it if you made the first move. Others would like you better for it.
Decided which kind of man you'd rather be with, and then assume this guy is one of those. If he's not, no loss.
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Admit it or not, ALL of us have experienced rejections ... it's like tax and death! You just will have developed thicker skin and it WILL get easier to brush rejections off. So go for it. Call the guy, or you're wasting time wondering.
Best of luck!
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email him and
if it doesnt work out you have lost nothing....
a few electrons send from your computer to server to his server to his computer..
nothing ventured, nothing gained!!!
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edgarbc1 Wrote:
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> >
> email him and
> if it doesnt work out you have lost nothing....
> a few electrons send from your computer to server
> to his server to his computer..
>
> nothing ventured, nothing gained!!!
Yup, who wants to be sitting around at 80 wondering what would have happened if they'd called or e-mailed someone they didn't because they were too concerned with protocol?
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nothing ventured, nothing gained
You don't find too many forty somethings claiming to have too many friends.
(recent lottery winners, maybe)
